How to Get Pre-Approved for a Mortgage on Long Island
Updated: Aug 27
Ok Friend, If you are thinking of getting Pre-Approved for a Mortgage I literally need 12 seconds of your time before you start reading this: I have NEVER (not once!) met a first time homebuyer or client whom was not nervous, shy or embarrassed either about
1) the Pre-Approved Amount
or
2) What they Anticipated the PreAp # to be, because of credit, income, a hard patch etc.
So, Let me be SO CLEAR HERE: YOU are a bada$$ for trying, for attempting to purchase in an economy thats been nothing but terrible for you, and in a location that leaves even 50 year olds at home in the basement with mom. Heres what we ARE NOT DOING - shaming, blaming or being rude to ourselves, you start somewhere. And you reading this? I can tell you are already 10 steps ahead of everyone else. Be Proud of Yourself.
No, Its not written by Ai, tyvm.
To get pre-approved for a mortgage on Long Island, a lender will typically review your income, assets, credit, debts and employment before estimating the mortgage amount you may qualify for. But your maximum pre-approval and your actual home-buying budget do not have to be the same number. Actually, they shouldn’t be for most people.
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Key Takeaways
Get pre-approved before seriously shopping, not necessarily before you start learning.
Your lender determines what you qualify for. You decide what you actually want to spend.
Monthly debt can change buying power dramatically, even between buyers earning similar salaries.
On Long Island, property taxes mean purchase price alone is a pretty lousy way to judge affordability.
A good pre-approval conversation should give you options, AND make you feel empowered, dammit!
Before We Talk About Pre-Approval, We're Going to Talk About Your Life
Here's how I approach your pre-approval:
Before asking:
“How much will the bank approve me for?”
I want to know:
“What monthly payment actually feels good to you?”
Those aren't necessarily the same number.
Your mortgage lender has a specific job. They're determining how much they're willing to lend based on lending guidelines and your financial profile.
That's useful information, it’s like a scientific number they come to.
But the lender doesn't know that you want to travel twice a year.
They don't know you're planning to have a child that goes to a special daycare service.
They don't know you'd rather keep $40,000 invested than put another $40,000 into your down payment.
They don't know that having $2,000 left over every month makes you feel secure while having $300 left makes you want to throw up.
Coming to your number is a give and take, kinda like a dance, and we need both this number and the hard and fast data point to make decisions.
Haven’t you always been told, the truth lies somewhere in the middle? LOL
What Does Mortgage Pre-Approval Actually Mean?
A mortgage pre-approval is a lender's preliminary evaluation of your ability to borrow money for a home purchase.
They'll generally evaluate things like:
Income
Employment
Credit
Assets
Existing debt
Down payment
Loan type
Debt-to-income ratio
From that information, the lender can estimate how much financing you may qualify for and issue a pre-approval letter.
That letter becomes important once you're seriously looking at homes because it helps establish that you've already taken the initial financial steps necessary to make an offer.
But there's one distinction I want you to remember:
A pre-approval is a financing tool.
Start With Take-Home Pay, Not the House Price
This is one of my favorite exercises with buyers because it makes the conversation much more real.
Start with your monthly take-home pay.
Then subtract the things already competing for that money:
Car payments.
Student loans.
Credit card minimums.
Insurance.
Childcare.
Subscriptions.
Recurring obligations.
And yes, your life.
What's left is your flexibility zone.
Now we can have a useful conversation:
How much of that zone are you comfortable dedicating to housing?
Once we know that, we can work backward toward a purchase range.
That's very different from starting with:
“Congratulations! You're approved for $725,000!”
Cool.
Should you spend $725,000?
Completely different question.
Why Two People Making $170,000 Can Afford Completely Different Homes
This is where salary-based home-buying advice falls apart.
Imagine two buyers each earn $170,000 per year.
Buyer A has very little monthly debt.
Buyer B recently leased two cars with combined payments of approximately $1,200 per month.
That $1,200 obligation matters when a lender calculates debt-to-income ratio, and it also matters when we're figuring out how much money is actually available every month.
If I had a dollar every time someone said to me “But, how did my friend buy, they make basically what I make and they bought a $900,000 house.”
Your friend's financial life isnt yours… and hold on because I am going to get REAL! (I hate to be the bearer of bad news, Friends are NOT always honest about money, how they got it, how they make it, or how they navigate large transactions.) Do yourself a HUGE solid right now, STOP the comparison early.
We need your numbers.
Long Island Property Taxes Make the Pre-Approval Conversation Even More Important
Long Island gives us another wrinkle:
Property taxes.
A buyer might say:
“I'm approved up to $700,000.”
But that doesn't necessarily mean every $700,000 house fits the approval (or your preferred payment.)
Consider two hypothetical homes:
Home A: $700,000 with $11,000 annual property taxes.
Home B: $700,000 with $18,000 annual property taxes.
Same purchase price.
Very different carrying cost and monthly payments.
That's why I don't want buyers setting their Zillow maximum price to whatever number appears on the pre-approval letter. We're shopping for the right financial fit.
Sometimes that even means seeing the “over priced” house while getting a better overall financial fit because of taxes or other carrying costs. (AKA your payment is lower with the more expensive house!)
Context matters. A good agent that knows what the hell they are doing matters.
When you get serious, You get off Zillow.
How to Get Pre-Approved for a Mortgage on Long Island
The actual process isn't particularly scary.
You'll choose a mortgage lender and provide information that allows them to evaluate your financial position.
Depending on your situation, they may request documents such as:
Recent pay stubs
W-2s or tax returns
Bank or asset statements
Employment information
Identification
Information about current debts
No, your lender doesn’t care about your DoorDash obsession, Amazon Shopping orders, or last 7 Ulta hauls… (girl, same!)
Self-employed buyers, investors and buyers with more complicated income structures may need additional documentation.
And complicated doesn't mean bad. It just means we want to understand the file from all angels before we get deep into the process.
That's a recurring theme in how I work:
Solve problems while they're still small and far away.
Everything becomes more stressful when there's suddenly a house you love and a deadline attached.
Instead of:
Pre-approval → Searching On Zillow → Falling In Love with NO Plan or Strategy → Wondering If you missed something
(And yes, I see this all the time…)
I prefer:
Financial picture → comfortable payment → pre-approval → shop w/ strategy → properties → Falling In Love → Confident Closing
Now we can evaluate homes through a completely different lens.
We aren't asking: “Can I technically buy this?”
We're asking: “Does buying this improve my financial position?”
That's an investor-minded question, even if you're buying the house to live in.
What I Tell My Own Clients
I want to make sure you understand the tradeoffs attached to every decision.
Sometimes putting more money down makes sense.
Sometimes keeping cash available makes more sense.
Sometimes buying the $650,000 house gives you substantially more optionality than buying the $725,000 house. And sometimes spending more actually buys the better asset.
*wont find that advice anywhere else on the internet! LOL
There isn't one universally correct answer.That's why I don't think buying a home should start with
“What's my max?” (AKA your pre-approval #)
It should start with:
“What are we trying to accomplish and how do we want to live after we buy?”
Once we know that, the pre-approval becomes incredibly useful.
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